To forgive and forget

            Recently it seems one of the few calm things that I have in my life is this blog. It really has become a place where an anarchist can be an anarchist. Now contrary to popular belief anarchists do have hearts, they generally have very big hearts actually. Now these hearts are usually filled with anger, hostility and an obsession with graffiti and explosions but there is still apart set aside for love. Now people will be people and make mistakes regardless of race, religion or what political party you align yourself with mistakes are going to happen. But when people make mistakes is it possible to forgive and forget what they have done? Well that is what we are going to discuss.

            Now something you should first know is that people don’t change they only change the way they lie. I have to use this time to insert an awesome quote from the film 8mm “When you dance with the devil, the devil don’t change. The devil changes you.” Jauqin Phoenix. But there may be a finer line here. And that could be fear. They may lie because they know they messed up and truly don’t want to lose what they have just jeopardized. Not saying that it is the best thing but it brings us back to our topic. What if you tell the truth and they forgive you. But every time there is an argument they bring it back up. Is there really any point in forgiveness without forgetfulness?

            I think instead we should replace that cliché with something that is easier for humans to accomplish, how about admission and acceptance then forgiveness. It is longer and not nearly as catchy. But it will save a lot of arguing and accusations. Let us start with admission. Ok let’s say you just got caught kissing some other guy. Now you may say you two were just friends or didn’t really kiss…but that is just gunna kause anger. So remove the lies and replace it with what actually and genuinely happened, this also will hurt but you will have the truth. Then we slowly move on to acceptance which is where you will decide if you to will stay together or move on and separate. This is the stage when mostly the person in fault will be the ones pleading and apologizing and the more active ones during the fights also when a lot of bargaining will happen. This is probably the longest stage as well. Lastly we can get to forgiveness. The person who was the cause of it has admitted there guilt, then you chose to accept there answer and either stay together or move apart now that has been done you can open a part of you to be able to forgive.

            Now notice how I took out forgetting altogether. The reason for that is because I do honestly think it is too hard for people as a whole to do. This formula may not be perfect but neither is every relationship or life so take it with a grain of salt and if you get nothing else at least you have a cool quote.