One of the few college classes that I took that actually taught me something and made my perspective on life change was psychology. It shows you not only a side of yourself that you didn’t know before but it showed you a side to humanity which you haven’t always seen and it attempts to open the preverbal third eye. Humans tend to deny there instinct’s on a general basis they define themselves as the superior species because of there perceived greater knowledge and denial of instincts. But is it all a matter of conditioning?
A lesson about conditioning that comes to my mind (sorry about the long drawn out version but it relates to the post I promise.) is that of a man named Pavlov. Long story short Pavlov conditioned a dog to produce saliva by ringing a bell. He accomplished that by ringing a bell over a plate of delicious food. He did this over and over and the dog conditioned the bell to know that there was food. So when he would ring the bell he would produce saliva and get ready to eat. So what does this have to do with love you ask? EVERYTHING!!!!
There was a time when I was afraid to tell someone that I loved them. Not because I had been hurt or because I was holding back it’s because I simply didn’t understand it. Then once I did and started saying I love you or getting told that I loved you either on the phone or in person whatever. I became conditioned to it. And once my bell was rung and I thought I was going to hear it and didn’t I would feel as I did something wrong. So you want to know how I compensated for that. I stopped saying it not a little not sometimes ALL TOGETHER the word seemed to just be gone from my vocabulary. I still had relationships and good ones. And this is where I feel a lot of people are at or have been. The power of love is easily one of the strongest forces in the universe, when you here it you don’t think it will kill or destroy something. Because by definition is does the exact opposite.
But the cold hard truth is that someone’s LOVE for science drove them to create the atomic bomb, hitler’s love of the Aryan race caused the holocaust and the Jew’s love for there God caused them to crucify there own savior. So many wars and lives have been lost in the name of love that it is sad. But what I have learned is that you should not tell someone you love them every time the bell (metaphor for urge) rings. You should say it when it counts say it so that it never gets stale to your mouth or to there ear. And if you have to text it or say it over the phone add something to it. “I love you more then a fat kid loves cake.” Yes it is a cheesy line from a rap song but you know what the first person he said that to will never forget it. Feel free to use similes and metaphors they may laugh at you but them laughing at you will trigger there mind and heart to remember those silly moments when times get rough or you are alone. Because best believe the storm will come. And when it comes and your not there your memory will serve as there shelter from all the dangers of the world. Its those memories that will keep things interesting. So by all means world if you love someone go the extra mile and let them know that you mean it when you say you love them. And also remember herpes does not have to be the only gift that keeps on giving.
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